Parents

Washington, DC The battle between social-media companies and parents found itself center stage at the Federal Trade Commission, Wednesday. A panel of four speakers discussed the state of play in America's fight to protect children online – and where it should go. On the stage at the FTC were Senator Marsha Blackburn of Tennessee; Dawn Hawkins, the National Center on Sexual Exploitation's senior advisor; Michael Toscano, director of the Family First Technology Institute for the Institute of Family Studies, and Maurine Molak, the founder of David's Legacy Foundation. Every day in 2021, 100,000 minors received sexually abusive content from adults on Facebook and Instagram, Blackburn said on the stand, referencing internal documents released by the Department of Justice.

“My way, or the highway,” was, at one time in the not-so-distant past, quite a popular phrase to associate with American dads. Cockburn recalls his fellow classmates invoking the maxim as evidence to their fathers’ strictness. “My dad is tough, man, he always says ‘it’s my way or the highway.’” On the contrary, Cockburn would respond, that statement shows your father to be quite reasonable, pusillanimous even: “Ahh, you’ve got it easy, then; your dad gives you a choice. Mine doesn’t allow the highway option.” Having a choice is what differentiates a command from a recommendation. Not terribly complicated — yet this simple fact apparently evades a great many in our media class.

I feel for Emily Dreyfuss. Really I do. Like millions of us, she is navigating parenthood in the midst of a pandemic. I feel even more for her son Huxley, the central figure of a piece she recently wrote for the Atlantic. Huxley is having difficulty negotiating the kindergarten social scene from behind the face mask mandated by his school. Dreyfuss writes that her son “couldn’t tell his new classmates apart; he had trouble hearing them; he wasn’t sure whether they could hear him; and he became especially disoriented around lunchtime, he said, because that was when all the kids took their masks off. Suddenly they looked like entirely new people.” The normally affable boy developed anxiety from all of that confusion.